Last week’s reflection focused on admitting a conflict exists as a prerequisite for resolution. This week I turn to Proverbs for wisdom in deciding whether - after acknowledging a conflict - to actually work on resolving it. Consider the following verses:
Ponder the path of your feet; then all your ways will be sure. (Prov. 4:26)
The heart of the righteous ponders how to answer, but the mouth of the wicked pours out evil things. (Prov. 15:28)
In several places, Proverbs suggests that a wise person ‘ponder’ their approach to life’s situations. We are reminded throughout the book that observing, assessing, and listening are key behaviors in gaining wisdom and understanding.
Before attempting to resolve a conflict, contemplate the potential benefits and consequences of your conflict resolution efforts. A family business dispute over the direction of the company, or disagreements over core values, ethics, or employee treatment may be important to tackle. But conflicts over how or when something is done (a method or technique), a personality difference, or a person’s organizational or communication skills, may not be as critical to address. Being both family members and business partners can mean a lifetime of interaction. Choose your conflicts wisely!
Does your family tend to engage in, or avoid, conflict? Which current conflicts in your family business need 'pondered' as you consider the future?